Monday, April 24, 2006

B-O-D-O-H

Some guys are proper idiots.
They get burnt. Sometimes stepped on. Taken advantage of. Often, as in my case, it's self-deserved.
Yet, despite it all, despite the nagging feeling that it's sometimes best to walk away and cut your losses, some idiot guys just go back for more punishment. Hypnotized, under a spell, like those bugs flying around one of those electrified bug-zappers. Like masochists who are too blind to see what they're doing to themselves. Because, sometimes no matter how dang-hard you try (or perhaps one tries too hard) there ain't nothing you can do about it. If the girl thinks you don't look good enough, or aren't eloquent enough, or don't make enough money, or whatever else, then there ain't nothing you can do.
My friends and housemate are trying to hold me back from spending more money on someone else. I'm kinda dumb that way. I have trouble spending money on myself if it's not electronic. But, when it comes to spending on someone I really like, be it flowers, chocolates or gift vouchers for massages, I work on a very generous budget. And believe me when I say generous. When you're a single doctor making American Dollars, you can do a lot of damage. And, if allowed to, I've been known to keep blowing dough for up to 3 years. Especially on the girls who are not interested.
Someone told me I'm persistent.
I think the operative word is stupid.
Just a few days. Though I have this overwhelming temptation to go out and blow US$150 on a gift card for a local spa and flowers, I just need to fight this for a few days until I leave for Chicago.
In the meantime, I'm gonna rely on my friends to remind me how stupid I am. And hopefully, I'll refraint from making a bigger fool of myself.

17 Comments:

Blogger IML said...

You are wrong, sincerity does shine through. Then again there should be some chemistry to start with ;)

11:57 PM  
Blogger kinokuanjo said...

Gals fall for guy like you, sometimes..just be patient ya..

12:06 AM  
Blogger piffles said...

please ... if no chemistry, damn embarrasing ....... even i cringe like hell, when i used to soppily 'chase' guys who weren't interested at all ..... BUT THEY COULD TELL i was interested ..... *cringe*

12:22 AM  
Blogger WMD: Wife, Mother, Daughter said...

Not B-O-D-O-H, you are simply embracing the power of love. "You'll never love a person you love unless you risk
for love. To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying, to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risk nothing! To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose true
self, to love is to risk not to be loved in return."

1:36 AM  
Blogger cissy~~~BLooSom plz!!! said...

yeah... i agree with wmd...
you are not bodoh...
you are just trying ur best to find the right one...
love is the difficult subject in life..
is not about intelligence..
well, we can see that a lot of ah gong ah mah who is barely educated to hold hands...
love is about: emm.... when u cannot see, someone will hold you; when u cannot walk, someone will push the wheelchair, when u are in bed... someone will cuddle you
you will, find ur happiness..
just have faith...

8:34 AM  
Blogger cissy~~~BLooSom plz!!! said...

hope u dun mind i leave comment on ur blog... just being one of my daily routine to browse ur blog...thx for the pronounciation correction... juz that studying medicine is malaysia... i still dun know how to pronounce Meinere's disease...haha

8:36 AM  
Anonymous mayan said...

hmm... who's the lucky gal then? tell lar! hey.. if u've got plenty of spare cash.. i can suggest a good way of spending it all... ON ME!!! hahahha... & hey... SHAVE, for heaven's sake!

1:05 PM  
Anonymous mayan said...

by the way... u're not stupid..just a generous romantic at heart.. perhaps maybe a little gullible sometimes.. but it's the girls who don't appreciate your gestures who are the bodoh ones!

1:38 PM  
Anonymous Gina said...

I agree with Mayan. Those girls who get your attention and yet did not reciprocate - well, something is very wrong with them.

Oh well, my guy friends told me (including my brother) - they will try at least 3x. If 3x also no reaction, then, that's it.

Don't overdo it. I believe girls who truly like you, will not emphasize on material things. They will like you as you are, even if at times, you tend to behave like a bloody dick. Haha!

8:14 PM  
Blogger dobbs said...

Sorry for being blunt but I agree with you that it's stupid. Trying to buy affection with presents is not the proper nor wise way to start a relationship. Once she expects presents from you, it will never end. Don't go round complaining later on that she is "high maintenance"! :P
Just be patient and wait for the right person to come along.

8:26 PM  
Blogger vagus said...

dobbs, you're right.

9:54 PM  
Anonymous sabrina said...

vagus: i believe the right girl doesn't need expensive gifts to flatter. she will like you for who you are, (and i mean, minus the Dr thing) and also the chemistry and give-and-take.
of course, there's also her family to think about.. but i guess being the Dr, it shouldn't be too hard :P
sometimes maybe the right girl is just next to you, but perhaps one overlooked ;)
all the best

12:51 AM  
Blogger PaulOS said...

The story of my life ... before..
I used to buy this gal Brownie's every other day.. and used to drive her about 100km to where she works and what do I get for it.. a huge dent in my account.. and she married someone else 2.5 years ago..

I've learnt.. be wise in giving.. not foolish.. Good to give.. but give wisely..

So don't worry about being stupid.. we gotta be stupid to know is as stupid is.. then now.. you can splurge your money on me dude.. hahahha. i need. hmm. i'll make a list.. then mail them to me dude...

5:18 AM  
Blogger vagus said...

lose the beard, get a wig, and then maybe we'll talk, paul! :P

7:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When the right girl comes along, she will be won over by you as a person, (and maybe a few thoughtful gifts.) But if she's rating you by the price tags (or still not interested,) she's likely not the one. Even if you win her over eventually with all that work, it may be still a primarily one-sided relationship.

Helen

10:52 AM  
Blogger suanie said...

Someone told me I'm persistent.
I think the operative word is stupid


Or a sucker for punishment :P

Ah well, join the club. [insert long pitiful story here]

4:10 AM  
Anonymous anastasia said...

Control.

Gifts every once in a while are nice, to show that you care, but don't overdo it.

Like Dobbs said, she may start expecting.

Be patient la.

10:16 AM  

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