Wednesday, November 15, 2006

Dressing too sexy?

I cringed when reading of Datuk Abu Bakar Hassan's implication that the female reporter who had her thighs videotaped by the security camera of City Hall asked for it by dressing too sexily. Though totally neanderthal and sexist, this coming from a Malaysian chauvinist isn't unheard of. After all, state leaders have issued statements in the past that people should not hire good-looking women as they are a distraction and a source of sin.
So I wrote in to share my humble view, that they're just idiots with no self control.
"These men need to learn proper self control. Or be blindfolded"
Don't you like that? Huh? Huh? (P/S: Remind me to watch my back the next time I visit Malaysia)
Well, today I was blown away further by this answer in today's papers. Probably more so that this came from a Chinese lady based in Australia doing her PhD in biochemistry. I suppose it's an eye opener for me.
"Ultimately, I believe it sometimes takes two to tango – if the woman does not tempt, the man does not get tempted.
I commiserate with most rape victims, but not those who dress provocatively. In a way, they asked for it."
Phew! While I don't claim to be an expert in this, I have read papers and studies and attended courses by people in this field; often it's more a show of power and dominance than a crime of lust. While I disagree, especially with her statement about rape victims asking for it in the way they dress I wonder what my readers have to say. Yea, sure, if you see a scantily-clad woman your imagination (and karma, naturally) does some acrobatics, but I'd like to believe Man is not as primal as that, and is able to exert some self control.
So, please leave a comment or two. And, if everyone seems to think it's ok to snap pictures of women's thighs just because they're showing too much skin, I'm going to run out and get myself a 200 mm zoom lens. And a 2Gb memory card.

13 Comments:

Anonymous Mandy said...

As i lady myself, i don't agree with what the ignorant politician said. He shouldn't be sitting on the position that he is now. They are the voice of the people and with such narrow mind of his, i doubt he'll be a good leader at all and Malaysia will be doomed if he will be elected as our PM one day. I'll definitely vote for the opposing team. lol..

If women asked for it upon themselves to be raped or molested just because they dress more openly, then what about the case of a Malay lady who was raped by a bus conductor and thrown into the riverside few years ago. Did she ask for it herself? She was dress very decently in a tudung and baju kebaya. Oh ya, maybe she deserve it for being born so pretty. It's all her fault because she put on make-up and change a good bus conductor into a monster. Is that what we should think??

Well, it's what the our leaders do, don't they?

8:34 PM  
Blogger terra shield said...

It's the most idiotic statement I've ever heard. I actually ended up spilling coffe on the paper due to the article.

And the second statement, coming from a woman itself... once again I'm horrified. These people should have been born in the 15th century or something.

Sorry to rant on your comment page, but I am rather annoyed with the dumbass statement from that numbskull.

11:54 PM  
Anonymous Hijackqueen said...

pheeweet.... meowwww....

You seriously need to shave, dude.

1:11 AM  
Anonymous midnite lily said...

hijackqueen, men with shaved legs?? x_X that's even more salah

1:44 AM  
Blogger doc said...

Bakar is moronic, chauvinistic & opportunistic, though not necessarily in that order.

Sylvia is outdated & out-of-touch with reality.

& you are better off spending that money paying fed-ex to courier your favourite nasi lemak (with extra spicy ikan bilis sambal) over. according to voltaire, the greatest pleasures in life consist in the filling & emptying of hollow viscus, & i don't see how being a voyeur achieves that.

10:56 AM  
Blogger flaminglambo said...

Dude, I don't know if you've been to Canberra but, even though it's the capital of Australia, the place is dead and boring. That comment from Sylvia is typical for a town with no life and probably no communication to the outside world. She probably doesn't even shave her armpits.

My take on the whole situation is down to narrow-mindedness and the inability to accept other cultures. In western cultures, it's ok to show a little skin but in the more conservative east, it's not. Ever wondered why the Arabs wear a head scarf and cover their bodies from head to toe? Religion? Hell no! Being in the desert, it's irritating when sand gets into ones hair, mouth, nose and pubes. And that's the truth! So where the heck is the desert in Malaysia?

With globalisation and people having the right to seek for a better living elsewhere, in another country, it's inevitable that cultures are blended which can cause a little friction. What is worrying is that we've got heads of states and communities that can't seem to open their minds but they're really good at opening their mouths.

Too sexy? Never. Even JT is bringing sexy back.

7:04 PM  
Blogger Karen M said...

Red boxer???
Cool...

4:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMG.

Thanks to your boxer's pic.

I had nightmare last night,
the night before,
the night before & the night before...

OMG.

*jaws dropped*

10:11 PM  
Blogger Sylvia said...

No, Canberra isn't like what flaminglambo described. The fashion here, IMHO, is cool. Girls here take tremendous efforts to look good and it's surely disdainful to discuss whether or not I shave my armpits. None of your business, flaminglambo.

Anyway, this issue is stale. We will never concur on something so subjective. But if everyone learns to discuss and exchange ideas respectfully and openly and not make personal attacks whenever we disagree, the world will be a much a better place. When I wrote to disagree with TKK, I never insulted the person he was. I plainly disagreed with what he'd said.

Move on, dudes. Anyway, this is Sylvia.

10:14 PM  
Blogger flaminglambo said...

How do you expect to have a discussion with a brick wall? Look, if you have so much pride (read stubborness) to admit that your views are wrong or at least apologise for making your views so vague that people took them the wrong way (case in mind - Sheikh Hilali), we can move on. When that happens, we are making progress. However, we are yet to see an apology in any of your posts.

In regards to personal attacks, if you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen. Better still, don't dish irrational and insensitive comments out if you do not wish to have insensitive comments hurled back at cha'. Ya' dig? You give love, you get love baby...

I'm sure you know how much crap the Sheikh copped because of the same insensitive comments. I dare you to write the same letter you did to your local paper with your address printed. I'm sure a lot of people are willing to discuss the matter with you personally...in a 'respectable' manner of course.

6:02 PM  
Blogger vagus said...

whoa whoa, peeps.
just a healthy exchange of opinions here. no need to get too worked up.
and if you have to know, no i don't shave my armpits. or legs ;)

6:17 PM  
Anonymous nesidioblastosis said...

omg look at those thighs...
so sexy.. makes me so so so...
argh... the little rapist inside me...
have... to... control...
argh... cannot.. too sexy... thighs... must... rape TKK... muahahahaha!
watch out TKK i am coming for you!
wearing your provocative boxers! you slut! you asked for it - i'm a coming for your thighs! (cue guiness advert)

11:16 AM  
Blogger Kelly Siew said...

nice legs.

that's right, BLAME IT ON THE WOMEN, and ignore the fact that those men r no different from animals! The whole point of being a human is having a conscience and self-control.

and i'm sure not all rape victims are dressed provocatively, what about rape victims who r muslims? surely they are much more covered up than say, a prostitute. But do these rapists care? if a man wants to rape someone, no amount of clothing will stop him.

Don't even mention Sheikh - Calling us uncovered meat, and should stay at home or wear hajib and the men stray cats on the road. Just great! Even more excuses for the criminals.

oh, i'm rambling on... sorry... i just had to...vuzt

8:20 PM  

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