About Letting Go...
Was talking to one of my online friends about letting go. Suddenly old memories about a special someone start coming back.
How does love and life work? Is one born with a soulmate that one if destined to spend the rest of his or her life with? One you end up with regardless of what you do and where you go, simply because fate has plans for you?
Or do we have many potential mates out there, and the decisions we make in life bring us to the one we finally end up with? (Gawd, I must have made bad decisions then! :))
Years ago, I made a conscious decision to complete what I had set out to do. Work, training, career. That was 4 years ago (I was in the midst of deciding if I should stay in Malaysia or leave for the United States for further training). And in the process, I had to say goodbye to a young lady with whom I was madly in love. I was told much later that she felt something too.
I finally let go, 3 years later. Realizing that the distance will never let anything happen. I had been sending her flowers on her birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's Days for the last 3 years(easy with the USD:RM conversion). But I suppose my chats with Paul tonight reminded me of her.
That brings a movie to mind.
Serendipity.
One of my favourite soppy movies (something I would never admit to in real life, but the internet gives me some anonymity!)
John Cusack, Kate Beckinsdale.
A movie about love, but more importantly, Fate.
Fate. Is there really such a thing? Do we go around in life led by what was already written?
Will I finally know for sure only on my deathbed? Everyone seems to ask that at the very end.
So, 2 schools of thought.
How does love and life work? Is one born with a soulmate that one if destined to spend the rest of his or her life with? One you end up with regardless of what you do and where you go, simply because fate has plans for you?
Or do we have many potential mates out there, and the decisions we make in life bring us to the one we finally end up with? (Gawd, I must have made bad decisions then! :))
Years ago, I made a conscious decision to complete what I had set out to do. Work, training, career. That was 4 years ago (I was in the midst of deciding if I should stay in Malaysia or leave for the United States for further training). And in the process, I had to say goodbye to a young lady with whom I was madly in love. I was told much later that she felt something too.
I finally let go, 3 years later. Realizing that the distance will never let anything happen. I had been sending her flowers on her birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's Days for the last 3 years(easy with the USD:RM conversion). But I suppose my chats with Paul tonight reminded me of her.
That brings a movie to mind.
Serendipity.
One of my favourite soppy movies (something I would never admit to in real life, but the internet gives me some anonymity!)
John Cusack, Kate Beckinsdale.
A movie about love, but more importantly, Fate.
Fate. Is there really such a thing? Do we go around in life led by what was already written?
Will I finally know for sure only on my deathbed? Everyone seems to ask that at the very end.
So, 2 schools of thought.
posted by vagus at 10:05 PM
6 Comments:
maybe you should try to contact this young lady.. tell her how you feel and ask her for forgiveness.. and maybe, just maybe, she feels the same... who says long distance relationships won't work..?
Am glad to bounce feelings of the heart with you bro.
I dunno what anonymous said.. but what's this "forgiving" bit? hmmm any offence incurred and taken by either side?
As I said... many potential soulmates, choose one that will alter the course of your life and you hers so that together you both fulfill each other's purpose in life. "And the 2 shall become one" creating one common purpose.
I think you've almost got things right bro... Are we willing to take the chance to trust God to reveal that person and purpose together? Sacrificing for each other so that both your purposes will be fulfilled in Him and in each other.
On another note : Long distance relationships can work, and whence you succeed you would've learnt to appreciate & treasure each other even more.
Rest assured, your placement in the "Land of the free" was intended for this episode of your life to grow and nurture you in so many ways you can't even begin to imagine.
A sacrifice was made by a man to bring us back to right and original purpose of our lives. He gave His life. And that indeed is the ultimate sacrifice. And sacrifice was His ultimate Act of Love.
Heh heh, i'm not sure what anonymous meant with the 'forgiveness' part either.
At least, i don't think i did anything wrong to her :)
Wow. Hot subject huh? Yea, LDRs work for some. And yes i'm here for a reason. Veronica, perhaps? :)
Serendipity - a movie that reminds me of my plight in a presumably loving,but realistically painful and hurting relationship some years ago...
Until this moment I'm still not sure if I believe in destiny or am I the kind of person who wants to grasp everything in my own hand?On the day of separation,the man whom I loved so much told me that we were not meant to each other.Let's leave it to fate.If we are destined to be together,we will eventually go back to each other one day!If we are not,we shall just let it go!He recommended this movie to me,which he wished that I'll understand his meaning after watching it!
Just wondering,have you ever measured how deep is your love towards somebody? I think love itself does not know its own depth,until the hour of separation.No matter how much I loved him,how much effort I have put in and how much sacrifice I have given,yet I couldn't catch his heart. The most suffering thing I have ever experinced,is loving someone who used to love you!I knew I shall just let him go.There is a time for departure even there's no certain place to go.We finally broke up....
Some of us think holding on makes us strong;but sometimes it is letting go.I believe I am stronger now.
Serendipity - a movie that reminds me of my plight in a presumably loving,but realistically painful and hurting relationship some years ago...
Until this moment I'm still not sure if I believe in destiny or am I the kind of person who wants to grasp everything in my own hand?On the day of separation,the man whom I loved so much told me that we were not meant to each other.Let's leave it to fate.If we are destined to be together,we will eventually go back to each other one day!If we are not,we shall just let it go!He recommended this movie to me,which he wished that I'll understand his meaning after watching it!
Just wondering,have you ever measured how deep is your love towards somebody? I think love itself does not know its own depth,until the hour of separation.No matter how much I loved him,how much effort I have put in and how much sacrifice I have given,yet I couldn't catch his heart. The most suffering thing I have ever experinced,is loving someone who used to love you!I knew I shall just let him go.There is a time for departure even there's no certain place to go.We finally broke up....
Some of us think holding on makes us strong;but sometimes it is letting go.I believe I am stronger now.
perhaps letting go makes u a better person...
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